Month: December 2024

How many things do we do each day vs. how many things are we being forced to do because others aren’t doing what they should? Are our lives being run or are we running our lives?

I have always found it a bit funny when some of my retired male friends talk about their “honey do lists,” which by the name need no explanation. Most of the time, I sense these were truly important family priorities … often needed repairs.

One can always put off things like this, claiming we don’t have the time or the resources, and that may be true. However, I am increasingly feeling that the clutter in our lives is largely a distraction from things that really matter.  I call this the tyranny of the urgent.  Let me poke at your conscience by asking how many times you fail to return a phone call or answer an email because you think you are too busy?

Really? … it is one thing to respond by alerting the calling party that you have something that is getting in the way, but that you will get back to them by this or that time or date. No, you are being rude and frankly damaging the trust formula in a relationship when you simply fail to respond. Let’s face it … once you simply ignore the message, your day will fill to the brim with other things, and in most likelihood, you will completely forget the call within a day.

Take stock of how your day is consumed and evaluate what it says about your priorities. Are you mindlessly watching the unending political nonsense as a result of the last election? Are you obsessed with video games? What about Facebook or Instagram?

I am not trying to ruin your fun … just asking whether the time is being managed or you are being managed by others or distractions. Be aware, the biggest influence on your life today is social media and that is being driven by Artificial Intelligence, aka, AI.

Devious people are at work trying to distract you, minutes at a time, from what you are trying to do, and every time you click that link to check out some audacious idea, you are giving these agents the specific insights they want and need to continue distracting you.

I covered the term “click bait” in a prior blog, and that is probably the most obvious. But every time you try to buy something you need, you are also giving these agents just what they want so they can blast you with the media trying to get your attention.

One of the most insidious temptations today are the false social media posts who claim to be interested in your ideas. As a male, these are often seemingly beautiful, lonely young ladies who seem to be wanting to start a conversation by just asking to have you friend them. Women are being targeted as well. The scammers will make you feel you have found a soulmate and gobble up your time. Plus, as you do waste away your time, they will set their hooks and drain your bank account.

Warning to any scammers reading this post: I report you immediately.

So, given that most of my readers have more sand in the bottom of their life’s hourglass than the top, please consider every hour you have left. Enjoy the time with recreational ideas and do stay on top of issues that matter to you. But, most of all, pay closer attention to the people in your life … all of them.

A recent event with one adult male in my life struck straight to the heart when he said that I was the only adult male role model for him. Scary thought you might rightfully say. But, no, his life was being consumed by the endless chatter and distractions, and he needed someone to show him they cared and would offer him a safe place to share his frustrations and challenges.

Be that special person by showing people in your life you truly care.

Diversity, Equity and Inclusion … aka DEI … seems like such an obviously good idea.  How can you argue with that principle. Well, just like the Inflation Reduction Act, which did exactly the opposite, the devil is always in the details. 

There are times when you listen to something and pause because it strikes you as profound. That happened when Susan and I were watching an old episode of Madam Secretary where a reporter was writing an exclusive article about the Secretary of State and was shadowing her through a few days of her work and personal life. He attends dinner at her home, interacts with the kids, and then enters this conversation with her husband Henry who is a theologian and professor of theology at the War College in DC.

Henry McCord: “You know, I’ve read a lot of your work. You’re very good at uncovering injustice.”

Reporter: “It keeps me busy.”

Henry: “Let me ask you something. Do you ever think that sometimes you find dishonesty and hypocrisy because you’ve already decided it’s there?”

Reporter: “Well, I prefer to think of my work as a search for the truth, right?”

Henry: “Well, then, as a Catholic, I would have to say we’re both searching for something elusive, unreliable, and prone to bias for a story we’d like to believe.”

I asked Susan to pause the video after exclaiming that this was profound, we rewound it several times for me to write the interchange above down. Please reread this carefully.

I think we are all searching for the truth, but how often do we remind ourselves that it is elusive, unreliable, and prone to bias? How often do we consider carefully the testimonies of so many in the world, in our lives, and within ourselves and admit that we see through a mirror dimly as the apostle Paul says and that we are looking at the knotted side of the tapestry in Corrie Ten Boom’s model of life’s mysteries.

Social media coupled with AI are feeding us things that we want to see and hear. The result may be good for the marketers and politicians behind these actions, but they are driving us away from carefully listening to one another.

Shiny pennies grab our attention. Clickbait makes us click on things that are not what they were claimed to be. Our attention spans are shrinking as we are bombarded by messaging specifically designed to capture our time online.  I’d like to believe that a pill would restore my hair, flexibility, and strength of my younger years. It is hard to resign yourself to the reality that stories about that are false.

We should be approaching each day with a special sensitivity to those with whom we have important relationships. And as we face it with our eyes and ears wide open, we should be wise like Henry recognizing our limits to know the truth even though we seek it intensely.

For those of you who want an excellent explanation of the root problem, please take a close look at the graphic at the beginning of this blog which has two lights shining on a cylinder in such a way that one wall appears to show it as a square and the other as a circle.  Both views are true, but the best insights come when you step back and see the whole picture.  (And a bonus question for the geeks out there … email me and tell me what the true color is for the cylinder itself?)

The key to better conversations seems to rely on humility and a sincere interest in learning more by listening.  I was struck by a recent Frank Bruni article in the New York Times and the author of the book “The Age of Grievance.”  This snippet from the Times says it all in my humble opinion:

“And I’m going to repeat one phrase more often than any other: ‘It’s complicated.’ They’ll become familiar with that. They may even become bored with it. I’ll sometimes say it when we’re discussing the roots and branches of a social ill, the motivations of public (and private) actors and a whole lot else, and that’s because I’m standing before them not as an ambassador of certainty or a font of unassailable verities but as an emissary of doubt. I want to give them intelligent questions, not final answers. I want to teach them how much they have to learn — and how much they will always have to learn.”

I hope this holiday season offers you many opportunities to savor the elusive, unreliable, and biased world all around us as we remind ourselves once again of the “reason for the season.”

Do you remember the story of the Pied Piper of Hamelin? It is an old fairy tale about a musician who was hired to rid the town of rats by charming them with his flute playing. But, when the townsfolk refused to pay him as they had promised, he exacted his revenge by leading all the town’s children away as well. Is Taylor Swift a modern-day Pied Piper? I suggest we take a closer look at Swifties: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swifties

Outside of this group, it seems that most Americans don’t have the appetite for and interest in seriously paying attention to anything. We seem to be a sea of mindless and braindead citizens following whatever grabs our limited attention? The movie Idiocracy is on point. Our culture is so riddled with soundbites and frenetic messaging scientists now claim our attention span has dropped from about 2-3 minutes 50 years ago to something less than 8 seconds. Watch how short modern commercials are compared to when you were young.

I personally believe the lengthy exposure of screen time with its toxic soup of videogames, social media, and AI generated personalized content addicts us and capturing our eyeballs and is a part of why today’s children and young adults have higher incidents of ADHD and other difficulties. I grew up without TV since it hadn’t been invented yet. I had a radio and could read books. Of course attention spans then were longer and necessary.  Against this backdrop, I suggest you look carefully at the behaviors of Taylor Swift concert goers. The following extended video summary of her recent tour is chilling:
https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/music/2024/12/05/taylor-swift-eras-tour-reporter-personal-journey/76711565007/

If you watched even a small part of the video segment, and you are a conservative older person you probably will say it reminds you of the Beetles Tour or Elvis Presley. Yes, in some ways that’s true, but the size of the crowds and the range of audience demographics should be a wake-up call to anyone in modern marketing. Plus, the way Taylor Swift creates community experiences is a Harvard Case Study in modern social interactions.

If you just watched the referenced video and shrugged your shoulders in disgust, you are vulnerable to those who know what has happened and why. If you can’t figure it out, hire the ones that have … or you are toast in this new world. Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it is your key to success in how others are redefining brand identity, awareness, and loyalty. Her fans are fanatics. She has not merely upped the game … she has reinvented it.

Here is an article summarizing how fans felt about her 3.5 hour concert: https://wapo.st/4fi6dRq The formula she used to connect with such a wide-ranging audience not only delivered the experience of a lifetime, but it also moves these same individuals to be in an ongoing relationship to her.

Look at the financial impact of this. It is not just about her ticket sales that have redefined the online ticket selling business because of its intensity. Look at the impact on the local economy in the chart below summarizes. She generates about ten times more than the prices of her tickets … which are also incredibly high … bordering on the absurd:

If you are hungry for more economic impacts, take a look at this article in the WSJ: https://www.wsj.com/economy/taylor-swift-fan-economic-impact-eras-tour-revenue-a9c00005?st=E1Wonm&reflink=desktopwebshare_permalink

It is so easy to just dismiss this young lady or to chalk this up to an otherwise bored modern youth element. No … there is something profound going on here. Her fans know the words of her songs and sing along during the 3+ hour concert. Their antics actually create seismic impacts!  When I started my engineering career we studied the Tacoma Narrows Bridge failure. Could a new rating for safety now include a Taylor Swift Concert rating?

So, if you don’t know what’s been happening and why … you may soon be “paying the Piper!”

The recent cold-blooded killing of a health services company president has triggered a response that should send chills up your spine … but for way too many Americans it hasn’t. In fact, it has spawned social media stardom to the culprit and a level of support and praise that harkens to the days of Hitler in the early 1900s about acceptability of killing Jews.

When people become so conditioned to accepting hate towards anyone or anything that they condone murder, I must wonder where we are going. Read this:
https://www.nbcnews.com/investigations/insurance-executives-murder-sparks-online-praise-hate-rcna183017

As you carefully read the article, you will see an underlying digital technique driven with AI algorithms that foster anything that will garner attention, even by promoting hate. So, we have social media platform technologies that are harvesting and promoting ideas that tear society apart from within. Social media and especially AI are polarizing and intensifying what would otherwise be fringe points of view.

My previous blogs have highlighted the deterioration in our social fabric where doing the right thing is increasingly going out of style. Gaslighting is so common on far-left ideologies that even mainstream American called it into question as evidenced with this most recent national election. So, there is hope that America is waking up.

But the attitudes toward the not yet tried and convicted suspect in this recent murder tells me we are in an incredibly dangerous place. How can we openly voice such hate? Where has our respect for life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness gone? What is worse here, is as I talk to those who feel this way they have no remorse about their hate!

Please step back and compare this article to what you are seeing around the world in what we like to call radical hate groups such as Hamas and others? We say we reject hate speech and phrases like “death to Israel” yet this NBC article points out we harbor hate at the same levels. Notice that no one in the article points out this is all hate speech!

Yes, you can say this is in response to wrongs by the healthcare company … but … killing a person just because you disagree with their business dealings crosses an ethical and moral line that I thought was not acceptable in this country. Perhaps not. I would hope that our politicians pass laws against AI that condones and/or promotes hate speech.  And, should you think I am exaggerating, please take a careful read of this: https://wapo.st/4g7vyPd

Hate speech is not acceptable within our freedoms of speech.